Wedding day stress?

Many people experience stress as they approach the great day. There are many things to think about and some of them can be create a real sense of feeling out of control.

There are many excellent books on getting ready for a wedding but here are just some of the simple things I can suggest you do to help reduce the stress. Get yourself a good wedding planning book and read it through it will help a great deal.

In all these matters it is wise to remain positive about how the day will be. Don't get stressed about things outside of your control e.g. the weather but just be prepared and then face everything calmly remembering to have as much fun as possible.

1. Remember why you are doing it.

It's easy to lose track of what is important when you are getting married. You are choosing to dedicate your life to loving one person. This is a wonderful and beautiful thing. Be proud of what you are doing and always remember why you are planning the big day anyway.

2. Write everything down

Get yourself a diary and a pad of paper as well as a folder and make sure you write everything you are planning down. Keep all correspondence etc in the same place so when you need it you have it ready at hand. When you book somewhere make sure you confirm the booking in writing.

3. A month before the big day

Ring around the places and people you have booked and check that everything is fine. It is possible you forgot to send in a deposite or that something has happened to upset the booking. Asking the questions early will help you to make alternative arrangements without the last minute panics.

4. A week before the big day

Check the most important things are done. e.g. is the venue still ok, is the church or registry office sorted out? Does anything need cleaning or do you need to buy anything last minute. You may like to make sure you are prepared for any problems that you might have last minute. Don't worry about this but just make sure you have things like a needle and thread handy or a role of gaffer tape can work wonders in an emergency. I might also suggest having some spare shoe laces because on my wedding day my shoe laces broke about two hours before the service. It was easily fixed but with a little planning I could have got this sorted out earlier.

Then write lists and forget about it. The list willhelp you remember anything you need to and because you have it written down you don't have to think about it all the time.

5. The rehersal

Have a rehersal before the day to practice what you are going to do. This is also the time that last minute stuff can get sorted out. I always recommend trying to get the rehersal on the Thursday before (for a Saturday wedding) this then gives you a day to sort anything else out that may have been forgotten.

6. The day

Everything is now done. Make sure you allow plenty of time to get to the church or registry office its one of theose days its better to be early than late (except for the bride who is allowed to be a few minutes late but not twenty minutes late. I once took a service when the groom arrived two hours late - it was very stressful for everyone. Allow yourself more time than you would normally to do everything. Wheny ou are stressed you might well find that you are tempted to do everything really fast but try to slow down a little.

Have a great day.

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